As I already postulated a couple of posts back, there are in my opinion two kinds of people: Takers and Givers, or – more poetically – Caesars and Pleasers…
When Annie Lennox (Eurythmics) is singing:
Some of them want to use you,
Some of them want to be used by you;
Some of them want to abuse you,
Some of them want to be abused…
… it is not that she disagrees with my assumption, she merely stipulates the different degrees within the two categories.

It is my profound conviction that we were all born as Caesars, as persons intent on satisfying our own basic instincts…
Our parents may succeed (or not) in mitigating the worst aspects. When however they are too zealous in their effort, they may go way beyond their goal and drive a child too far away from its natural (and legitimate) needs and feelings. And the alienated child on its turn may well end up mistaking the needs and feelings of its dominant parents as its prime objective in life.